Of Men, Attraction & Women’s Body Image
Do these questions sound familiar, ‘Do you think am fat?’ or ‘Should I gain weight some weight?’ Most women are known to have concerns about their body image. Yes, even the most beautiful woman finds fault in her body shape or size probably wishing there were parts that were smaller, leaner or prettier.
For some its easy to get over the flaws and accept the way they look, for others, these insecurities are crippling and can affect relationships.
In this week's ‘Round Table Discussions’ I caught up with seven career driven gentlemen from different professions and age asking the same questions about women, attraction and if they really care about the little flaws women magnify like cellulite, baby fat, body size etc.
Meet the Guys
Norman, 29 yrs, Economist, Uganda, (In a relationship)
Johnnie, 27yrs, Country Manager, Logistics Company, Uganda (In a Relationship)
George, 28yrs, Project Manager, Telecoms Company, Kenya (Single)
Creas, 39 yrs, Engineer, Los Angeles (In a Relationship)
Joel, 25yrs, Desinger, Uganda (Single)
Ben, 25 yrs, Professional Blogger, UK (In a Relationship)
George K, 28yrs, Creative, Kenya (In a Relationship)
1. What attracts you to a woman?
CREAS: Appearance not necessarily looks, but the whole packaging. Like dressing style and manners.
NORMAN: Several things attract me to a woman. A woman who is at a certain level of independence emotionally, financially and otherwise. I will be attracted to a woman who has 'swagger', mean a woman who is sure of herself, her confidence levels are high, but then pride does not exist within her. And she must be caring, ‘how i love a caring woman, since care comes with a big heart. You know the small things do matter so much. I am down for such a sister.
GEORGE: Intelligence, great sense of humor and a grasp of world affairs. Better if she loves reading. Best if she writes.
JOHNNIE: First of all it's the looks. Attitude and character come in later. I mean you can never see one's character on the first meeting. Am also attracted to very confident women. Confidence in speech, walk and actions.
JOEL: Godliness, beauty, depth, fun and Companionship
BEN: I think there are 3 things; firstly their sense humor, then passion and finally their confidence
GEORGE K: Beauty; I have to notice you to be interested
2.
Do looks matter?
CREAS: Yes looks do matter, it comes with appeal. It is not all and all but it does help.
NORMAN: To a large extent looks do matter. If I enter a place, my eyes will rove around, and believe me, they will settle on the beautiful girl/s in the room. So whenever I have approached a girl, first its been because of her looks, then other factors come in. when we start communicating then I judge the character.
GEORGE: Yes they do. She doesn't have to be a designer baby-girl but pretty does it.
JOHNNIE: Yes they do. A lot. Guys and other ladies shall always respect a man in company of a beautiful lady.
JOEL: Beauty is what usually draws a man to a woman. However, character is very essential because a woman who does not respect her husband or man will lose favour with him.
BEN: I think looks matter initially, but it is nowhere near the most important thing in the relationship
GEORGE K: Yeah looks matter. That's why girls spend countless hours adorning themselves. Some guys care, some don't.
3.Do guys care about a woman’s body size and things like cellulite, baby fat and a the little flaws the way women do?
CREAS: No, not like women think they do, Men sleep with anybody the good the bad and the ugly.
NORMAN: Yes guys care about that lumpy fat.... It should be fought with all it takes.
GEORGE: Being in telecoms cellulite sounds like cell phone to me so could it be a good thing? Well, never heard of anyone dumped coz of cellulite. Few men do.
JOHNNIE: What is cellulite?(lol). No I don't care about cellulite. Doesn't everyone have cellulite?
JOEL: I could speak a book. It is because of men that women do what they do. Women should primarily work on their character not their boobs. I may be drawn to you because of your beauty but I will stay with you because of your character.
BEN: I don't think a lot of things matter to guys as much as some women think - seriously though, no.
GEORGE K: Africans don't care, the fleshier the better. Some like me do. Cellulite puts me off in a way.
Ladies,now you that we've heard what the guys have to say,what do you think? Do you think men put so much pressure on women and their looks yet they fail keep up?
Ladies have any questions for the men, feel free to drop in your thoughts at [email protected]
painting by Frank Morrison
