What is relationship?
How do we define dating, courting, engagement, and marriage?
How do we define these words and roles in modern times?
How critical are our definitions in placing our connections in the proper place?
This is a 2-part article.
Part 1: What is a relationship? How do we define this in modern times?
Part 2:How do we define dating, courting, engagement, and marriage, and how do these definitions determined our connections?
Part 1: What is a relationship?
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Relationships are the foundational rocks of life. We build bonds with other people in every avenue of life. Our personal relationships sometimes dictate our professional careers and opportunities. Our friendships are representations of our favorites, interests, and personality. Our love life, one can say, is a combination of our desires, but not always a reflection of them.
As human beings, it is vital to create worthy relationships with others. However, the dynamics of these relationships are often overlooked, underappreciated, and not properly defined in order to benefit both parties.
A relationship is defined as a connection (sometimes emotional), association, or involvement between individuals. That is very broad for some of the specific interactions that we build with others. This is why it is critical for one to define the connections that they have with the people in their life.
Here are some questions to ask yourself:
Friendships:
• Is this person dependable at ALL times?
• How well is “follow through” in the friendship?
• Is the friendship strong during good and rough moments?
Defining your friendship helps you put individuals into their appropriate category. Depending on your level of interaction,your friendship can be considered the following: best friends, friends, associates, and bored bonding. Bored Bonding occurs when you are searching through your contacts for someone new to connect with out of boredom.
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Romance:
• Ask yourself, are you obtaining what you initially desired?
• Are both parties on the same page in terms of trust, wants, future, stability, and the overall direction of the relationship?
• Is this conducive for your success?
In today’s society, media, music, literature, and environmental and suggestive circumstances often influence the romantic relationships we build with others. The places we meet individuals and our first interactions often dictate the purpose and length of the connection. It is okay to create menial relationships with others, as long as it is understood and consistent. We often expect the most out of relationships that we have yet to put the most work/value into. We must always be real with ourselves and the relationships we have in order to acquire the true things our heart desires. Make sure your goals are realistic! Make sure your relationships reflect your growth! Make sure you constantly evaluate your own expectations and your partners!
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Familial:
• How strong is the bond between parties? Is it consistent? Healthy?
• What grudges/past events are you holding on to? How does this change the dynamics of your interactions?
• Does your “family” encourage your success? How is this relationship productive?
Often times, we get really emotionally hung up on issues dealing with our family because we expect so much from them. However, we forget that they are not exempt from making the same human decisions as any stranger we may interact with. Because of this, it is important to be open-minded to friends and others who become “like family” and family members who become strangers. Your expectations of the relationships you foster with “family” must be examined continuously for preservation, nourishment, and overall agreeance with your personal life. Do not hesitate to approach family in the same upfront and honest manner you would approach a friend. Do not hesitate to keep your distance from family in the same manner you would from an enemy. Most importantly, do not hesitate to overthink mixing business with family.
What does this have to do with being single?
Well, first off, in order to acquire a relationship one must know what a relationship is and consists of. Every relationship should be accessed for clarity. In respect to obtaining a mate that will be fulfilling, they should go through every phase of being your friend, romantic interest, then being absorbed into your family.
Remember to set boundaries and define your relationships for yourself using your own form of measurement instead of what popular song, media, belief, or your friends may say!
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